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B.O. + NO deodorant = Yegh

There is a certain someone that you love and respect. A very wonderful, outspoken, and intelligent person with great ideas whose company you absolutely enjoy…

That is until, the funk makes itself evident. Oh, NO!!! B.O.!!!

You are left speechless, confused, and slightly disgusted.

Body odor is a HELL NO! It is distracting, and not in a positive or constructive way.

I understand that many people are against the horrible ingredients in today’s antiperspirants. For goodness’ love, last weekend, I spent almost an hour dissecting deodorant and antiperspirant labels, and the large majority said “Ask a doctor if you have liver disease.” What the…? So, the product is okay if I am free of liver disease? Hmmmkay.

But, if I am perfectly healthy, will the use of this product contribute to the potential development of liver disease? Why are these companies NOT spelling out that the ingredients in these everyday products could eventually contribute to liver disease? And, if these products do NOT contribute to the potential development of liver disease then, why the warning?

Holy mackerel! Must I stink in order to keep my liver healthy?

Is this why my friend that I love and admire so much has chosen to provide the world with this very unpleasant and completely overpowering underarm smell?

All of a sudden, I’m much more understanding. That doesn’t make me any less sensitive to the stench emanating from an otherwise lovely creature.


Fortunately, there are a few:

1. Hold my breath and pray that the arms of my interlocutor will stay in the downward position.
2. Suggest a natural crystal deodorant (I bought and tried one this weekend and, to my surprise, it WORKED! I was not dry, but there were no smells emanating from my underarms, weeee!
3. Suggest the application of a paste made of hydrogen peroxide and baking soda, the most ever-so-gentle and kind mixture. Again, this may not do anything to underarm wetness, but it will definitely kill the stench..

Here are the REAL challenges for the above mentioned alternatives:

#1 – Imposes no challenges to myself, other than forcing myself to grin and ignore the smell.
#2 and #3 – How in the world do I approach this person about this problem?!? Even if I am kinder than kind, it will still be a VERY uncomfortable situation. The last thing I want to do is let this person know that they stink (physically) and that they should do something about it, now!

So, let’s summarize:

Unfortunately, I have one workable solution (#1) but that does not change anything. Quite on the contrary, it enables the situation.

That is why I am asking for feedback and suggestions.

I am all for an all-natural, additive-free, healthy, sustainable life. I believe that there is a way to be ALL that, including proper B.O. control.

Suggestions are MORE than welcome  :)


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UP the stakes…

I am so happy. Not just happy as in “ha, ha”, but happy as in “life is amazingly wonderful, even when it is not!”.

Simply stated: I am fucking happy!

That doesn’t change the fact that my clothes feel tight and that my waistline should be smaller. Therefore, I propose the following: I get fit and healthy. You do the same.

I hold my end of the bargain and post progress updates on a daily basis. You? You don’t have to do anything, unless you want to.

Someone once told me that the road ahead was tough and unpredictable, but that, together, we would make it more pleasant and manageable for sure.

Do you want to do this with me?

I’m down. Are you?

Beso, abrazo, y apapacho <3

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A new beginning

It has been a while since I visited this site.

I wish I had a very valid reason for not doing so, but the truth is: I don’t have one. I have been glorifying ‘busy’, and allowing myself to get fat and unhealthy.

If you think that writing that phrase was easy, think again.

It wasn’t.

I am a former ‘model’, I used to stop traffic, ever so effortlessly, without even knowing I was doing so.

One day, I was riding in the back of a cab when the driver got stopped by a cop in a motorcycle, for no apparent reason. After speaking with the cop outside the cab, the driver informed me that the cop had stopped us because he wanted to enjoy the sight of me a while longer. Flattering as it could have been, I found the whole incident intriguing.

Having had my moments and knowing what I know now, I am absolutely certain that even though I had ‘it’, I never truly owned ‘it’.

Today, I am 41 years old. I am 5’10″ and weigh almost 180 lbs.

I sit here, writing these words, feeling like a complete and total hypocrite. This website is “Healthy and Happy Today”, right?

Well, at least the ‘Happy’ part is true.

I made a conscious decision a while back that I would never be unhappy, no matter what. Life is way too short to be otherwise. I met the man for me. We built a home together. We have a wonderfully healthy relationship, and we are in it for the long run.

Meanwhile, my exercise regime suffered. Between wanting to come home to my loved one, and being unable to find a convenient gym,  I trusted that my fabulous metabolism would take care of the rest.

But, it didn’t.

And, here I am. Pouring my heart out to you. You, whom I don’t even know.

That last statement makes this place as safe as it is vulnerable, for I am about to share my ‘journey to health’ with you.

Yes, YOU.

That is, if you choose to keep on reading.

And, even better: if you choose to share your own ‘journey to health’ with me.

Here’s my challenge: I will post my progress on a daily basis. By keeping this public diary, I will keep myself accountable. I will share my memories, ongoing story, setbacks, and tips.

As of today, nobody is following (let alone joining) this adventure, so I will treat these posts as if they were journal posts. I pledge to be truthful, honest, and kind to myself.

Here’s to new beginnings!am_fix


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This entry is wonderful, and I cannot wait to go on my Sleep-cation! :)

Originally posted on The Still Spot:

Hello my fellow human Beings:

The Merriam-Webster Dictionary defines SLEEP as:

“the natural periodic suspension of consciousness during which the powers of the body are restored”

Ahhhh, yes, that is what we all want each night, just some time for the powers of our bodies to be restored. This rest period is especially desired and needed when we are sick, tired, overworked, anxious, overwhelmed, and physically and mentally exhausted.

We all lead busy, active lives (even if it’s more mentally active than physically active). Our senses are continually bombarded by stimuli a countless number of times each day. So at the end of the day, we look forward to that needed break from the hustle and bustle of fully conscious wakefulness.

Sleep helps us naturally restore our bodies’ energy, heal our ailments, and provide rest for our active minds.

However, these benefits of sleep will only happen if we properly…

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Healthy and Happy Strategies 2.0

Love your TempleRest

- A good night’s sleep
Just today, my dear colleague, Catherine Baldi from ARC Painting mentioned during our networking meeting that her secret to success is a good night sleep. People laughed in agreement. It goes unsaid, but, it is a fact of facts that sleep is beyond beneficial. Even without fully grasping what sleep does for us, we are fully aware that going without sleep for too long makes us feel like poopie-poop, and that getting a joyful night’s sleep will surely make us feel ready like royalty!

And, while I tend to be a night owl, I revere a good night sleep. Get informed and sleep on

- A good mattress
When it comes to getting a good night’s sleep, there’s no question — your mattress matters. But with so many choices — traditional coil, air, latex, and memory foam mattresses being some of the top contenders — buying a new one can be a nightmare… Get informed!

- A good pillow
Awww… Fluffy, firm, snuggly, safe… ?|Ugh… Who knew all these factors would come into play when choosing a pillow?

Well, they do. Learn a bit, and sleep cozy!

- Melatonin
This one might be a bit controversial and scandalous… However, it has done wonders for my sleep quality and for my dreams :)
Seriously, 3mg. slow-release melatonin has worked wonders for me (personally)
Learn more about it, decide for yourself.
And, remember, consult your physician. These are merely my thoughts and experiences. Be responsible. Do your own research.
If you are reading this, I love you. Hugs!
 And, if you are not reading this, I love you too. This Universe is in dire need of LOVE.
May we ride the positive waves…

Healthy and Happy Strategies 1.3

Emotional Health:

- Love Thy Surroundings, Thy Place, Thy wardrobe.
Sumptuousness, luxury,  debaucherbleh…
What am I talking about? Hell if I know…
Hee, hee…
Wait, wait! I do know. I’m talking about loving our surroundings, our clothing, our visual environment.
This does not mean complete and total transformation of the above. It means: rehabilitation, resuscitation, purging, reincarnation, rebirth, discover and re-discover. Re-purpose… It means: Do, whatever you need to do, in order to transform, and fall in love with, your surroundings :)
Maybe a quick and cheap coat of paint? Sustainable, of course ;)
How about donating stuff you no longer need?
Maybe organizing… BIG or small time?
Or, re-designing, stat!
Or is it cleaning… deeply?
Let’s get personal… What if the outside is not in alignment with the inside? Does your appearance need refreshing? Is your wardrobe outdated?
Your outside should always be aligned with your spirit.  If you are shy and demure, shouldn’t your clothes hint so? If you are progressive and edgy, shouldn’t your appearance scream so?
Maybe a combination of it all?
This is the time to truly enjoy your environment, whatever it takes…
For your surroundings dictate your mood, and your mood dictates your day…
Am I wrong?
Hmmmnah! I didn’t think so!
If you are reading this, a big “Thank you!”
You, are cool :)
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Healthy and Happy Strategies 1.2

Emotional Health:

- Love What You Do for a Living
Did you know that most (Western) people spend more time at work than they do at their home/personal life (not counting sleep)?
Yup. It’s a fact.
Since that is true, then: how is one’s psyche affected when one loathes one’s environment and co-workers? Let us be less severe… What if we spend the core of our day doing things we dislike alongside people we do not care for?
Food for thought.
I’d rather earn little doing something I love, than earn lots doing something I hate.
Money is but energy.
Money means nothing if happiness is not present.
Happiness is everything.
Money follows.
If you do what fulfills you, what makes you happy and thrive; money is merely a byproduct.
A byproduct of happiness and talent.
A means, not a way.
“Choose a job you love, and you will never have to work a day in your life.”
Mark these words, for they will transform your life.
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Healthy and Happy Strategies 1.1

Emotional Health:

- Love the One(s) you live with
“And if you can’t be with the one you love, honey
Love the one you’re with…”
–Crosby Stills Nash
I have a bit of trouble with these lyrics… They feel unsettling, while they are settling. Yes, they are positive, in a way. They also reek of: “Oh well…”
I truly and wholeheartedly believe that you should be with the one you love… And loves you back.
Reciprocity. Oh, reciprocity. The magic. That magical moment when you know that what you feel is accepted, received, and returned, full-force. AMAZING.
To say: “Oh, I can’t be with the one I love, so I will love the one that is here”, is a disservice to both parties. There are billions of people in the world, and the concept of the “One”, is way over and underrated all at once… There are -not one- but hundreds of potentially suitable partners for each and every one of us at any given time. It is important to remember that we are all constantly growing, evolving… changing. And in the midst of change, we might encounter a “One” that is diving into that very wave, that very second… Oh, the uncertainties, the fun, the mystery!
Fear… always latent and ominous… Fuck it!
If it ain’t wrong, A-okay.
If it ain’t right, fix it!
Don’t prolong a sure-death, and definitely, don’t live through a nightmare!
If you don’t love the one you’re with: GO! MOVE! FLY!
While it may be hard to start over, it will be exciting, and fulfilling!
It is better to be completely alone, than to feel lonely while surrounded by one, or many.
Mark my words, for they are real and true.
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Healthy and Happy Strategies 1.0

Emotional Health:

- Love Thyself
The purpose of this passage, is to make the best of it. Life is not fulfilling without love. True, unabashed, boundless Love, is practically impossible; unless you love yourself. All people should readily agree with this statement; but, sadly, that is not the case. There is an illness that has slowly, but steadily contaminated the world…
A silent voice that promotes disarray and unhappiness. It says: “You are not smart/beautiful/slender/successful/(fill in the blank) enough”.
The truth is, that the silent voice is wrong. WRONG. Each of us has a choice.  A true and palpable choice to be whatever we want to be…
Regardless of our shortcomings. Regardless of our situation, our birthright -or lack thereof-. Regardless of our limitations, our set of inherited beliefs…
We: YOU and ME, have the innate capacity to make the best of ourselves! It is all about making that choice, and sticking to our guns all the way through.
It’s about our curiosity, and our capacity to remain curious. Our integrity, and our will to remain integer. Our tenacity, and our strength to become tenacious. It IS about our determination to S E E the best in ourselves, so we may allow us to see the best in others: our sisters and brothers, in this life…
The Diving Bell and the Butterfly
For we will see each other again…
We will, mark these words, for they come from a Higher Place.
Love Thyself: For it is the only ME that you will EVER have.
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How Much Is A Homemaker Worth?

I found this article so enlightening! Lets not take ourselves/homemakers for granted, when broken down in terms of money, all of a sudden the every day chores become even more valuable than ever before! So pats on the back all around- look at all the money you saved (or the money you could be charging), and appreciate all the hard work!!!

Link: Investopedia By Porcshe Moran | Investopedia – Mon, Jan 16, 2012 1:23 PM EST

The life of a homemaker is one that includes an endless amount of demands and to-dos. Depending on the size of the home and family, the position of homemaker can go well beyond the usual nine to five. We examined some of the tasks that a homemaker might do to find out how much his or her services would net as individual professional careers. We only take into consideration tasks which have monetary values and use the lowest value for each calculation.

Private Chef
Meal preparation is one of the major tasks of most homemakers. From breakfast to dinner, there is plenty of meal planning and cooking to be done. The American Personal Chef Association reports that its personal chefs make $200 to $500 a day. Grocery shopping is another chore that needs to be factored in. A homemaker must drive to the supermarket, purchase the food and deliver it to the home. Grocery delivery services charge a delivery fee of $5 to $10.

Total cost for services: $1,005 per five day work week x 52 weeks = $52,260 per year.

House Cleaner
A clean and tidy home is the foundation of an efficient household. Typical cleaning duties include vacuuming, dusting, sweeping, scrubbing sinks as well as loading the dishwasher and making beds. Professional maids or house cleaning service providers will charge by the hour, number of rooms or square footage of the home. For example, bi-weekly cleaning of a 900-square-foot, two-bedroom apartment with five rooms, costs $59-$124 . A 1,300 square-foot, single-story home with seven rooms runs $79-$150 . A 2,200 two-story, three-bedroom home with nine rooms averages $104-$180 . Additional tasks such as oven or refrigerator cleaning and dusting mini blinds can run an extra $20-$25.

Total cost for services: $118 per week X 52 Weeks = $6,136 per year.

Child Care
Homemakers provide full-time, live-in child care. This type of service from a professional provider would usually come with a host of perks including health insurance, paid vacation and sick days, federal holidays off, dental and vision coverage, and bonuses. The International Nanny Association’s 2011 survey found that nannies make $600 to $950 per week in gross wages, on average.

Total cost for services: $600 a week plus perks/benefits x 52 Weeks = $31,200 per year.

A private car service might seem like a high-end luxury to most, but the beneficiaries of a homemaker get this service on a daily basis. Companies like Red Cap, which provides personal drivers that use the client’s own car as the means of transportation, offer a glimpse into the cost of this homemaker task. An elite membership which includes 365 days of unlimited, round-trip service is $1,000 a year plus 33 cents – $2.03 per minute.

Total cost for services: $1,000 per year + [(estimated miles driven 8000 miles / 50 MPH) x 60 min/hr x $0.33 per minute] = $4,168 total per year.

Laundry Service
Clean clothes come at a cost when you have to pay for the service that most homemakers do for free. Professional laundry services charge by the pound. For instance, Susie’s Suds Home Laundry Service, Inc. in Texas charges 90 cents to $1.00 a pound to wash, dry, fold, hang and steam your clothes. Items that take longer to dry such as comforters, blankets, rugs and winter clothes are assessed at a price of $12-$15 each.

Total cost for services: $0.90 per pound x 4 pounds of clothes per day x 5 days per weeks x 52 weeks = $936 total per year.

Lawn Maintenance
Basic maintenance of the exterior property is a less common, but possible duty of a homemaker.This could include things such as mowing, debris removal, edging and trimming the lawn. These services cost about $30 a week on average.

Total cost for services: $30 per week x 52 weeks = $1,560 total per year.

The Bottom Line
Total for a year of all services is: $52,260 + $6,137 + $31,200 + $4,168 + $936 + $1,560 = $96,261 per year.

The daily work of a homemaker can sometimes be taken for granted by his or her family members. However, these services could earn a homemaker a considerable wage if he or she took those skills to the marketplace. Homemakers in general contribute a lot more to the home in addition to these tasks, and no amount of money can fill those needs.

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